The development of children is interesting to observe since they were babies. Babies enjoy their time to develop by drinking breast milk and just playing. Since this period of growth, children know many things. Usually children also have a high enough curiosity so they always ask about many things. However, when you try to invite your child to enter a special guidance institution for children, sometimes the child becomes bored and does not want to learn. This is not a new problem because almost all parents have experienced this.
Well, what if this happened to your child. Check out some ways to deal with difficult children learning, as below:
- Create a quiet environment
If you have children who find it difficult to concentrate then you should start to make the atmosphere at home quieter. Turn off all television, radio and other cell phone activities that make sounds. Maybe when the atmosphere is crowded the children cannot learn so it is difficult for them to start learning. This condition can also help children who are undergoing therapy for children with speech delays.
- Give a special room
Children usually need special things that can make their enthusiasm for learning go up again. You can arrange it by creating a special room for children’s learning. The trick is to create a special area in the child’s room. Provide special furniture for children such as tables, chairs, study tables on the floor and bookshelves. Create this atmosphere like when they are visiting the library or studying at their school. Then as entertainment, consider giving decorations such as wall stickers according to the children’s preferences. Making this special room is also useful as a way to deal with spoiled children so that they can be independent.
3. Provide learning tools that children like
You probably already know that children are actually interested in pencil and paper when they are very young. By looking at all of this, you can provide various writing tools to encourage children to learn well. Do not give various stationery to children because they may not be according to taste. It is better to give children the opportunity to choose for themselves what they like. Including freeing children to choose the colors and shapes they like. So this method will make children more enthusiastic to learn.
- Create a special time for the child but not bound
The habit of studying with a special time should have been applied since childhood. You can try to give your child the freedom to choose the study time that suits them. For example, a grade 1 elementary school child may feel very tired when he has to study when he comes home from school. So learning time arrangements must follow the wishes of the child. Sometimes the desire for study time can also change every day and this is very good to prevent boredom studying. These tips can also help as a way to teach children to read so they are not pressured at home.
- Give time to rest
Children sometimes feel bored and very tired. However, if you continue to force yourself to learn, it will be difficult to get maximum results. In fact, children will feel very bored and tired. So the key is to give your child a break. Allow them to rest until the child’s body and mind recover. Learning outcomes with this method are better than continuing to force children to learn.
- Help children to choose materials
Many children are new to school and they do not understand what has actually been learned in school. Then this makes the children feel very lazy when studying at home. Basically children do not understand what to learn and how to learn. So parents have a role to help choose learning materials. If necessary, give the important points of each material learned by the child. Teachers in schools may not be able to help with this and parents have the same obligations as teachers.
When children start getting some tests at school then they face a lot of pressure. Not only from parents who always advise to get good grades. But sometimes the pressure comes from the classroom environment. Competition at school makes children feel insecure. To overcome this, you can consider helping children. Give praise and help children learn to repeat the material. If they get good results then give a gift to the child. Giving praise according to portions can also be a way of educating hyperactive children and overcoming the causes of children getting angry quickly.
- Don’t force your child to be frustrated
When children feel pressured it may be because the child does not want to learn or it is difficult to learn something. Frustration in children, if left unchecked, can cause children to be lazy to learn, do not want to do assignments and unstable emotions. This condition often occurs in hyperactive children and tantrums. Therefore you must know when the child is frustrated. Do not invite children to study, but invite children to play a little outside the house. If the child’s mood is better then you can persuade the child to study again.
- Engage with what your child is learning
Parents may feel too busy and only supervise the child while studying. This method can make children feel lazy because they feel they are not getting any help. And supervision from parents looks like when they are at school. Therefore you can change this habit. Try to get into the things your child is learning. If you can then teach the child about the problem if you can’t then try to find out with the internet.
- Get used to asking nicely
As a parent, you shouldn’t get used to yelling at your child when your child fails to do their job. It is better if you develop a close relationship with the child. Ask what they have learned and how the school or teacher was when giving the lesson. Including if the child starts to be lazy to study then ask what the cause is. Maybe they actually just need something light, namely to feel considered special by their own parents.
- Tell us about your learning experience
You can also try to share your learning experiences with your child. Give your child an image of how you were when you were a child and try to learn. Tell the truth because when you tell the story, the child can feel more enthusiastic and grateful. This step is very important to keep the children’s enthusiasm there even though they are going through a difficult learning period at school. Invite children to have a heart-to-heart conversation.
- Give understanding that it’s okay to be wrong
Sometimes the demands of parents on their children become very excessive when the children have entered school. This becomes a burden for children because they feel they have to be the most perfect. As a result of this pressure, children usually feel embarrassed or angry when they fail to study or fail a test. And parents must give understanding that mistakes are okay. Say that you are not angry or sad. Instead, tell the child that this mistake can be the truth for the next method.
- Give motivation to children
Parents should support their children and the way they should be seen by the children. This may be difficult for parents who travel a lot and rarely see their children. But you can apply various ways to motivate children. Check out the following tips:
- Ask the child about some things they want, and when successful give it to the child as a surprise.
- Take the children for walks during the holidays to see how they are progressing.
- Invite children to go to a bookstore and let them choose the books they like, including comics for example.
- Teach children to be creative according to their interests. For example in the field of music, painting, crafts or various other creations. This method can make them not bored with various lessons that have become daily activities.
- Invite children to exercise together and this is your opportunity for children to tell stories and provide important advice for their children’s future.
- Don’t get used to helping children in ways that are not right, such as always asking the teacher for help to give good grades or threatening the child.
- Know if the child is sick
Then you also have to find out if the child is actually sick and doesn’t want to study. Ask the children how they feel. Some children may not show any symptoms but their bodies become more tired due to an overly stressed mind. If the child is sick then give permission for the child to stay at home and not force himself to go to school. This is wiser than forcing children to stay in school.
- Find out the child’s development from the teacher
If your child is showing severe laziness and you are running out of ways to change then ask the teacher. But when you ask, don’t let the child know because he might feel embarrassed and angry. You can ask several things such as how the child’s activities at school, how the child’s relationship with their friends and how the child’s behavior. If your child is doing very well at school, your child may feel that something is not right at home.
- Don’t argue with children
You should also get used to never arguing with children. Long arguments can cause children to become angry and feel that their opinions are not being recognized. What you need to do is talk to your child nicely. What is the problem they do not want to learn and what are the solutions you are trying to provide. If you go against what your child says, they may feel uncomfortable and angry.